Complacency is dangerous, ESPECIALLY in marriage.
Before getting married…
We wanted to spend every moment together. Since we were intentional about not having “inside dates” (dates at either of our homes) we were always out. If we had money, we went to restaurants or the movies. When things we tight financially we went to parks, museums, the Promenade (in Brooklyn) or browsed around the city. We were always out and always having a good time. Because we were trying not to slip into fornication, we were very affection (hugging, kissing, etc.) and anything else that we deemed “ok” and not overboard.
Inside dates are the BOMB. Because we have a home together, we often watch movies or a series on Netflix together. As beautiful as this is, it has taken away from the romance that we had during our dating days. We’ve gotten so comfy with each other that, it seems the excitement has gone…which sucks.
I had to remind myself to go back to the 19 year old who looked at Terrence and had butterflies. Go back to the woman who couldn’t wait to do nothing more than to marry my best friend. Shifting my mind literally made me look at my husband differently. It was SO refreshing and it even prompted us to plan a date!
If you find your marriage getting stale, I encourage you to take a trip down memory lane and remind yourself why you fell so in love with your spouse. Change your perspective about them. Even go as far as to watch wedding footage or even visit your vows again. I guarantee that this will refresh you marriage and your love life.
Marriage works as long as you put the necessary work in!
Love you all <3