Disappointment is something we’re all faced with day to day and can present itself in many different ways.
A negative pregnancy test.
A promotion that you didn’t land.
Extra weight gain.
An unexpected death.
And the list can easily go on and on and on.
I’ve dealt with each of the things mentioned above and through each bought of disappointment, I learned something new to help me get through the next time and apply to my life in general.
So, what can you do when you’re hit with disappointment?
- Write Down What God Says. God never lies, nor does He contradict Himself. Therefore, anything that He says, WILL come to pass by nature of who He is. So, whether it be a personal word of prophecy that you received or if it was something you read from His Word – write down everything that applies to the situation. For example, after I miscarried in 2014, I bought a journal which I called my “Faith Book” where I wrote down every prophecy, dream, scripture, that applied to my situation. Anytime I was hit with disappointment surrounding pregnancy, I went back to that faith book to declare the things I wrote and as a source of encouragement.
A phrase I use all the time is “if you’re going to believe, then believe”. I apply this to my faith. If I say I’m a Christian, then I’m going to put my money where my mouth is. I’m going to believe Christ and what He says not only when things are going well, but ESPECIALLY when things are taking unexpected turns for the worst.
This leads me to the next way to deal with disappointment.
- Protect Your Faith. Everyone isn’t going to see things the way you see them. There are some people who, like in Job’s situation, will want you to curse God and find other ways of dealing with your disappointment. I encourage you to NOT GIVE IN! Protect your faith from negativity by going to your faith book and reading ALOUD the things that you’ve written. There is power in the tongue and what you hear, you will believe, so release words of life daily that will uplift you during times of disappointment.
And lastly, and probably most importantly…
- Talk To God About It. And when I say this, I don’t mean to construct a fancy, pretty prayer. Instead, be real with your heavenly Father. Express your feelings of confusion, discontentment, anger, and anything else associated with disappointment. Just about five years ago my cousin passed away. We were the same age. She was 24. It was unexpected and it hurt so very very very much. I was confused and honestly, scared as well. How could a life so young be taken away so suddenly? The ONLY way I was able to get through that season, was by talking to God. I gave God all of my feelings and frustrations and in exchange, He gave me His peace.
When you practice these three things, it won’t necessarily make your feelings of disappointment go away, but I promise that it’ll help you get through it!
God is faithful, able, and He cares about you! He loves you! I believe that you’ll get through it and in turn, cultivate a closer walk with God!